How To Take More Pain

How To Take More Pain: A Bottoms Approach 

Lead by: @Toy with @mr_O

Don't you love it when you get "top-splained" by well-meaning(?) Tops who think they know how bottoms process and tolerate painful experiences? In this bottom focussed lecture/discussion, we will look at practical techniques for pain management (beyond being told to just "breathe" or “relax”). We'll discuss and re-examine the differences in types of pain, and look at ways to lengthen and endure more in our scenes.

This class is not meant to bottom shame. This class is not meant to tell you that you need to take any more than you already have or want to. This is meant for any folks interested in exploring their relationship to pain. We will discuss ways to control our pain through a more active and mindful approach to play, and ways we can help our tops bring us further than we ever thought possible.

Please keep in mind that while this is a bottom-focused workshop, switches and tops are welcome and encouraged to attend. We only ask that most participation in the discussion portions are bottom-centred.

(Lecture + Discussion + Demo Only) 

Photo credit: Cip

Tickets are available on a sliding scale to promote inclusivity and accessibility. Please choose the ticket price that makes this event accessible to you. All ticket types provide the same access to the event.

This class is open to members only. If you don’t have your membership yet, you can sign up online or come by to see the space on one of our social nights and sign up in person. We would love to see you! A temporary membership is also available for 24 hours for $10 at the door. 

toy

toy is a masochistic cuck-servant with a penchant for dark rooms and terrifying people. She has been in and out of the BDSM and rope scene for over 15 years and has been educating internationally as well as in her local community of Ottawa/Montreal/Toronto for about 5. She is passionate about sharing her experience with other bottoms so they can safely explore some of the scarier and more intimate aspects of psychological and emotional play. As an educator, she firmly believes in classes that include both top and bottom perspectives, as it empowers both to create a safer and ultimately more fulfilling scene or dynamic.

Mr O

mr_O is a creative sadist with a love of medical play, a penchant for violent grappling scenes, and a very cute bum. Having spent over two decades as a jiu jitsu competitor and instructor, he has found ways to apply his knowledge of body mechanics to kinky play and shares that in his teaching. Active in the Canadian BDSM scene since 2005, he regularly puts on workshops internationally as well as locally in the Toronto, Montreal and Ottawa areas on subjects including wrestling, grappling and medical play. With an engineering based background and scientific mind, he is known for continually inventing new devices and ways to hurt people “for science”. When he’s not being nice he can be a bit mean. And vice versa Mr O believes strongly that successful scenes start with careful negotiation, and so teaches workshops and private classes on negotiation and consent.